Give Yourself Good Advice
Use a mental board of advisors to give yourself good advice.
Today’s topic is how to brainstorm good advice for yourself. The quick and dirty tip is to use a mental board of advisors.
Why Use Advisors?
Some people are umpires for college rugby. It gives meaning to their lives, and an excuse to get paid for playing in the mud. I send out the Get-it-Done Guy’s world-wide messages of peace, love, and file folders, but I’m also a business and strategy advisor to entrepreneurs. I’m more serious in that role, and almost never mention zombies unless that’s part of our business model. You can read some of my entrepreneurship articles in this episode’s transcript. Advising gives meaning to my life, and an excuse to talk back to CEOs and have them grovel for my approval.
Even smart people use advisors, because you make better decisions when you have different perspectives to call on. It’s also fun to have advisors with opposing ideas. You can entertain yourself by tossing out a provocative statement and watching them fight over it. “Let’s build our new office space entirely out of peanut butter! Should we use chunky or smooth? Discuss.”
Boards of Advisors Aren’t Just for CEOs Any More
When I was a kid, I wanted to be an astronaut. NASA wouldn’t take me because I had no depth perception, a wandering eye, and I was only six. But Kennedy Space Center would sell me a cardboard lunar lander. My imaginary friend and I would get inside and pretend to be flying through space. I loved that lunar lander. I kept it until it literally fell apart. I think what finally got to it was the rain during college graduation (I flunked out, but my imaginary friend graduated summa cum laude from MIT).
Yes, my imaginary friend was smarter. It turns out we can imagine smart friends, and they actually give us good advice. If you want to make better decisions that save you time, money, and hassle, create an imaginary board of advisors.
Consult Your Board
Then when you’re faced with a difficult situation or decision, go to your quiet place (the one in your mind, not the real one with the padded walls) and have a mental conversation with your board members. You’ll be amazed how good their advice can be.
For example, let’s say you’re a teenager going on a date. Your mental board of advisors includes Keanu Reeves, Heidi Klum and Jack Black. You ask, “How can I make this date a total success?” Keanu says, “Dude, take your date somewhere really sticky floors so they’re stuck in place and have to kiss you back.” Then you remember that he’s still single despite being rich, handsome, and known to a billion people world-wide. So you ask Heidi. She says “A girl likes to be treated with respect. Open the door for her. Treat her right. And boys like someone who can talk to them respectfully, as an equal.” Sounds reasonable. Finally, you ask Jack. “Guys like to be put in their place, preferably with free pizza. And girls like someone who can beat them at beer pong.” Now you have three different perspectives. All you have to do is choose the one that seems like it fits this situation.
Choose Board Members Carefully
This example brings up an important point: who you put on your imaginary board will determine the answers you get. Since you’re not paying board fees, you can have as many members as you want and change them if any get uppity. Being imaginary, you can include dead or fictional people: Amelia Earhart for inspiration; Merlin the Magician for wisdom. My board includes real-life experts I’ve read about or met:
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“Million-dollar consultant,” Alan Weiss helps frame situations to find the value opportunity.
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Len Schlesinger, my college professor, now President of Babson College, can cut straight to the heart of any issue I bring to him.
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Richard Bandler, co-developer of neuro-linguistic programming, advises me on communication skills issues.
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Byron Katie (she’s a woman) gives me good advice for dealing with criticism.
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Composer, author, and humorist Joel Derfner helps me be funny, and insults me, so Katie has a reason to give me advice.
When I have a decision to ponder, I ask my board members, and have them explain their positions. Alan helps me frame the issue, Len helps me analyze it, and Richard helps communicate it. Joel makes snide remarks about anatomically impossible things I can do with a banana, and Katie reminds me that it’s all in my head and not to take any of it too seriously.Â
Be On a Board
Having imaginary advisors can help, and being an imaginary advisor also works. We give others the advice we really need. After you’ve consulted your board, imagine you’re on someone else’s board who has the same issue. They ask you for advice. What do you tell them? Write that down and see if it isn’t exactly the advice you should take, yourself.
Play with this today. Pick a problem you’re stuck on, and ask Madame Curie, Jean-Paul Sartre, Mandelbrot, Einstein, and, of course, me, for advice. This episode’s transcript includes links to my own articles on entrepreneurship and the web sites of my most excellent imaginary board members.
- Visit Joel Derfner’s official website – The gayest man in New York City, and (in my humble opinion) one of the funniest men on the face of the planet.
- https://www.SteverRobbins.com – Articles and resources for entrepreneurship by Stever.
- Visit Summit Consulting’s official website – Alan Weiss’s web site. “The Million-Dollar Consultant.”
- Visit Babson College’s official website – Babson College, the rocking-est college for entrepreneurship around.
- Visit Richard Bandler’s official website – Richard Bandler’s web site, co-founder of NLP.
- Visit The Work website – Byron Katie, who can deal with anything, thanks to a strange incident 25 years ago involving depression, a cockroach, and.
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About the Author
Stever Robbins was the host of the podcast Get-it-Done Guy from 2007 to 2019. He is a graduate of W. Edward Deming’s Total Quality Management training program and a Certified Master Trainer Elite of NLP. He holds an MBA from the Harvard Business School and a BS in Computer Sciences from MIT.Â
